So your friend is getting married, how exciting! Yeah, it’s exciting at first, and then you realise all of the stress, frustration and the pressure of being the best bridesmaid, and making sure the bride and groom have the best day. Here are some ways you can be a great bridesmaid.
Don’t Complain About The Dress
Okay, so maybe the dress the bride has picked for you isn’t your favourite, but if the bride loves a bright red above the knee dress, you should just go with it. Don’t become one of those bridesmaids that you see on Say Yes To The Dress, you know the ones; they complain about everything. Even if you hate the dress, go ahead with it. On the occasion that they let you pick your own dress, don’t be angry if they disagree with your choice. Remember, it’s their day, not yours.
Take Photos On The Day
Sure, the bride may have hired a professional photographer for the day, taking snaps of the bride getting ready, looking flawless. You should also take some photos of your own, though. Take photos of the flowers, of your friends getting ready, and just generally enjoying the day’s journey. Of course, don’t get too focused on taking photos, because you’re going to have a lot to do on the day, but chuck in a couple of cheeky snaps to show the bride afterwards. Take photos of the bride in her dress. Set the scene by making her emerge from a screen divider from MyDeal. You can add personal touches to these photos, adding personality to each snap, that the photographer just didn’t grab. Take selfies, hold a mini photoshoot, and make sure the bride is enjoying herself. It can also be a great way to help her relax a bit, and have some fun.
Prepare For The Worst
Of course, not everything goes to plan. There may be a freak hurricane, the florists sent chicken nugget bouquets instead of peonies, or all of the bridal party received only left shoes instead of a matching pair. Maybe a little extreme, but it’s important to prepare for the worst, so you can have a backup plan and a way to keep the bridal party calm.
Know When You (And The Bride) Need Professional Help
Sometimes organising a wedding is just too stressful to do alone, and you need help. Suzanne Clements, the owner of Secret Bridesmaids, offers her help. “ Brides have a lot going through their mind in the lead up to the wedding and on the day. Often the Bridesmaids make an executive decision to turn off the bride’s phone. This is done to try minimise stress. Sound like a great plan, right?! The problem is, if there is no coordinator or planner for the wedding vendors to contact a small issue could become a monstrous problem with the day’s proceedings.” Find out more about Secret Bridesmaid by following them on Facebook and Instagram.
Think Of Your Role
Dorothy Polka from Polka Dot Bride shares her insight. "Think about the perspective of your role in the day. While communication is always a big part of a friendship and you should no doubt express your desire not to wear an unflattering gown or high heels you can’t walk in, there are limit. Freaking out about hair and makeup on the day, punishing the bride for her decisions by giving her the silent treatment, or making unreasonable demands are never fun- especially on a day that is so clearly about two other people beyond your role." Find out more about Polka Dot Bride by following them on Facebook and Instagram.
It’s Not About You
I hate to break it to you, but this event isn’t about you. Sure, you may have some opinions about the food, the music or the venue, but this isn’t your day, therefore, unless you’re asked, you shouldn’t inject your opinion into the equation.
Help The Bride Before The Day
Helen McMurdo from Elle + Adhira, shares her advice for keeping the bride calm. “Organise a couple of things to keep her stress levels low: Surprise her with a massage a couple of days before the big day, or arrange a group yoga class the evening before to help her relax. Even a simple thing like cooking her breakfast can help her feel cared for and at ease. Go into "mum mode" for her. Remember - it's not about you: Yes, you may not have chosen that exact dress if it were up to you. And no, that choice of entertainment at the hens' party may not be your cup of tea. But this is an opportunity to lavish selflessness upon one of your closest friends or family members - so embrace saying yes to every request, knowing how happy it will make her.” Find out more about Elle + Adhira by following them on Facebook and Instagram. A great way to make sure that the bride looks and feels her best before the big day is to make sure she’s sleeping well. Sleeping well reduces under eye bags, stress and can makes the bride feel relaxed leading up to the event. Even if the bride’s mattress isn’t the best, you can make it better by adding a comfortable mattress topper. It will make a huge difference, and it can help prevent lower back pain, and any reduce stress leading up to the big day.
Help the Bride On The Day
On the actual day of the wedding, don’t forget to keep the bride calm. Focus the energy on getting ready, not what hasn’t been done. Play some music, pop a bottle of champagne (don’t get drunk, though!) and keep the morale up. It’s imperative that everything goes smoothly, even if it’s just a facade. Keep the stress below the surface, so the bride can remain calm.
You should also make sure that you remain social during the reception, try not to get too drunk, and enjoy yourself! It’ll be you soon!