Everyone has those days where you look in the mirror and you feel a bit like Jabba the Hutt. We all experience it, but if you’ve been experiencing it for more than a little while, you may need to reassess your self-love. Here are some ways you can boost your self-esteem and confidence.
MyDeal Pro Tip:
Get more sleep. Sleep is a habit that can seriously boost your self-esteem and confidence, as it reduces your baseline levels of cortisol, the stress hormone, which can help you focus on the positives, thus increasing your self-esteem. If your sleep has been a bit rocky lately, investing in a memory foam mattress from MyDeal can be your answer. Made to flatter your posture and support your spine, you can wake up feeling refreshed and ready to face the day.
Sonja Courtis | Sonja Courtis
“Prioritise your own wellbeing, fill your own cup up first: When you engage in extreme self-care, through exercise, nutrition, positive mindset trends, shifting negative beliefs, we feel better in ourselves. Having confidence requires us to practice daily gratitude and positive affirmations to shift our mindset. When we feel healthy and vibrant we are more inclined to feel confident, not to mention that endorphins that exercise release. Positive mindset is key, so making it a daily habit to work on changing limiting beliefs about ourselves to positive ones works a treat. One very effective, easily learned and self-administered tool to do that is Emotional Freedom Technique – which is like ‘First aid for your emotions.” Including EFT as a daily habit brings significant shifts in our feelings and thoughts allowing us to feel confidence at our very core.
Give out compliments to others: what we put out to the world we get back. So even if inside we are not feeling too good about ourselves, look for the good in others, because what we see in others is already in us. When we give out a compliment it feels good and people’s responses allow us to feel better about ourselves as a person.
Do things you love doing but also learn new skills: Confidence comes from stepping out of our comfort zone and challenging ourselves to do things we may not have done, such as learning a new language, taking up a new sport, joining a club (toastmasters is an example). The more we learn new things the more confident we are in our abilities, it also allows us to connect with other like-minded people.” Find out more about Sonja Courtis by following her on Facebook and Instagram.
“Self-love comes from within and starts with core beliefs we have about ourselves. Underneath it all, what do you truly believe are your strengths, weaknesses and why you are worthy of love? Understanding your core beliefs and insecurities will help you tackle areas in your life that may be challenging, anxiety-inducing and evoke uncomfortable and unhelpful thoughts and behaviours that may self-sabotage and hinder you from self-love and love from others. To encourage a greater understanding of your inner self and develop self-love, a thought diary to note down daily thoughts and positive affirmations may be helpful. A thought diary enables you to reflect on positive things about yourself, but to also develop an awareness of unhelpful thoughts that may influence how you perceive yourself, how you interpret social situations and your emotional responses to these different contexts. By developing a greater understanding of ourselves and harbouring an unconditional acceptance of our strengths and weaknesses, we learn to foster self-love and be kinder to ourselves. “ Find out more about Stephanie Lau and The Holiday Psychologist by following her on Facebook and Instagram.
MyDeal Pro Tip:
Accept compliments more. It can be so easy to shy away and scrunch your face if someone compliments you, but that falters your self-esteem, and is detrimental to your mental health. When someone compliments you, instead of denying the compliment, accept it and say thank you. It allows you to get into the habit of hearing positive comments about yourself, allowing you to open up to self-love and acceptance.
Mituri Sharma | Nim-Veda
“Natural Products (like foods) contain a limited number of chemicals and other harmful ingredients conventional products may contain. As skin is our largest organ, it makes sense that what we choose to put on it would have a substantial impact. The pores on our skin are directly correlated with our bloodstream - using natural products is like a Mother’s touch to a baby, non-invasive and tenderly loving – basically, it’s all the awesome stuff! Why is this so important? It’s important because skin that loves what you apply on it is going to display its appreciation with fewer breakouts, rashes, permanent scarring and oiliness. This means a more flawless look that you’re going to want to show off with confidence and grandeur. Feel confident in putting your natural skin on display for the world to see!” Find out more about Nimveda by following them on Facebook.
“I find that boosting your self-esteem and confidence starts with getting to know what your personal triggers or 'voices' are. If you don't do this then you will not be able to successfully build your confidence as the 'negative trigger/voices will continue to get in the way. By recognising them you can build positive actions to take to counter these, from key phrases to visualisation process, to counter them. It is one of the most import parts of building your self-esteem and confidence to help you climb your ladder to success.” Find out more about Maggie by following her on Facebook and Instagram.
MyDeal Pro Tip:
Learn something new. It may sound a bit weird, but when you learn something new, you open your mind to new things in the world. Whether you’re a bit of a bookworm, a lover of animals or you love some sport, try something completely different and new for a change. Get the gardening tools out from your sturdy gardening shed, and teach yourself how to garden; learn a new language or teach yourself how to cook. Who knows, you may just discover a new talent that you never expected!
Tori Blake | Tori Blake Nutritionist
“By using social media, you’re exposing yourself to hundreds of images and messages every day that will no doubt affect your mood and self-esteem. I like to recommend a ‘social media cleanse’ – unfollow all people, brands and products that make you feel unhappy, inadequate, jealous or insecure, and instead fill your feed with positive, uplifting, and inspirational people and content. Also be careful not to turn into a phone-junkie! Try leaving your mobile at home when meeting friends for dinner, and make your bedroom a phone-free zone. Removing the temptation to mindlessly scroll through your phone opens up more time to actually connect in person with your friends and family around you, which is so important for good health and wellbeing” Find out more about Tori Blake by following her on Facebook and Instagram.
Karen Chaston | Karen Chaston
“- Positive self-talk.
- Don't compare yourself to others.
- Don't strive for perfection.
- Don't beat yourself up when you make a mistake.
- Focus on the things you can change.
- Do things that you enjoy.
- Celebrate the small stuff, though one of my favourites is to focus on all of your past achievements. Think back to everything you have achieved to get you to be the person you are now. Give yourself a pat on the back and then focus on what you'd like to achieve if success was guaranteed. DREAM BIG.” Find out more about Karen Chaston by following her on Facebook.