The definition of a family is forever changing and these days it’s increasingly common to get married when you already have kids. But how can you bring them into your special day in a fun and respectful way? Here’s 3 ideas for you to try.
1. Give them the spotlight for moment
The focus of the wedding day should be the couple, but your kids will feel important if they can have a brief starring role too. If your kids are going to be part of the ceremony (perhaps a ring bearer or flower girl) give them an entrance everyone will remember. Arriving in a kids sports car is sure to get people’s attention! Bonus for later - it keeps them entertained at the reception, along with any big kids in control of the remote.
2. Keep them entertained at the reception
Sometimes it’s not your own kids that will be a part of the action but your nephews, nieces and friends children that are making an appearance. If you’ll be allowing kids at your wedding there’s a chance they’ll get bored and run amuck. Give them an activity to do at the reception so you know they’re entertained and you can spend some quality time with their parents. Face painting is easy to organise and will look super cute in wedding photos with the younger attendees. If there’s a sizeable outdoor area then search MyDeal outdoor play for jumping castles which are a special treat for most kids.
3. Invite them into the ceremony
The Happily Ever After Celebrant, Katie Clayton, has a few ideas for giving children of all ages a place in the wedding ceremony.
“There are plenty of great ways to include kids in your ceremony. As a celebrant I can offer the following suggestions:
- Flower girl and page boys
- Have family vows as part of the ceremony
- Have a decorative certificate that the children can also sign off on
- Have a ceremony such as a sand or stone ceremony where the different colours are different people and when all mixed together become one
- For older children, ask if they would like to speak at the ceremony
- Have your children walk you down the aisle
- When you present your rings to each other can also present something to the children such as bracelets
There are many many more suggestions out there. Best of luck with the planning!"
We hope your wedding day is a special occasion for everyone involved!